Personal Self-esteem + Optimism = Confidence
It occurred to me a person that might be quiet and/or shy may not be lacking in confidence and an extrovert person is often perceived as being confident just because they are louder. A person that shows-off is perceived to be confident but they may be showing-off to disguise their lack of confidence. It is all very confusing! So what is this confidence thing about – is it important and if so why?
What is confidence?
Confidence is the trust or belief in your ability to reach a specific goal or outcome now and in the future. Psychologists prefer to use the terms self-esteem, self-efficacy and optimism. Some refer to confidence as Self-esteem + Optimism = Confidence, so without self-esteem you cannot have confidence.
Why is Confidence Important?
Wikipedia notes that confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it and those with it may succeed because they have it rather than because of an innate ability.
Neel Burton, M.D. in his statement confirms the self-fulfilling prophecy circle: ‘People with long-term low self-esteem generally see the world as a hostile place and themselves as its victim. As a result, they feel reluctant to express and assert themselves, miss out on experiences and opportunities, and feel helpless about changing things. All this merely lowers their self-esteem even further, and they end up getting caught in a downward spiral’. http://bit.ly/WbfZdm
If you are to achieve your goals whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, a lack of confidence will undermine your ability to achieve a successful outcome. Yes it does mean that you have to be confident to achieve your goals, however, confidence is a habit that can be learnt and improved.
How can you learn, improve and maintain your Confidence?
· Build on your strengths
· Seek positive reinforcement and encouragement from your support group
· Learn from positive and constructive feedback
· Set goals and create plans that progressively builds on each success
· Accept responsibility for your actions and reactions and if necessary adjust your behaviour
· Stretch your boundaries and be willing to fail to learn
A confident person remains so because they are continually reinforcing their experience of success. Success breeds self-confidence, in the words of Mahatma Ghandi “Man becomes what he believes himself to be”.
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